Sunday, March 13, 2011

jealous bug, be gone

oh Lord, i want to be supportive and appreciative and have happy tears for them, but seriously, what about us?

i'm watching 'coming home' on lifetime and as heart-touching as the reunions are, i'm jealous. jealous to hear that the navy aviator was deployed only 7 months, total. jealous that some tv show was able to get a dad home early for his daughter's concert. jealous that at the end of the day, we'll be doing another 12 + months deployment, my boys will once again be bonding with their father thanks to a webcam, jealous that at the end of the day, they will never hear our story. and i don't like the jealous feeling, it's not who i am.

but then again, why not be jealous? heck, i would love a deployment that lasted less than 12 months. i would love for my husband to be home for our boys' birthdays (sure, he'll be home for the birth of our son and be able to put him to sleep for the first 12 days of his life, and then he'll be gone for another 6 + months). i would love for him to be able to take our son to soccer (no 3 yr old should break down in the middle soccer because he misses his daddy that much). i would love for my husband to come home at the end of this deployment and know he'll be home for the rest of our boys' lives.

but at the end of the day, it's not the path God has laid before. it's not the journey He has chosen for us. and it's not the easy road we will take. but, it is the road He is carrying us down. and so, jealousy aside, i will try to be happy for those reunited with their loved ones as we wait, and wait, and wait.


Tyler said...

I have a jealous monster too. I also get really frusterated knowing Ryan has been gone twice, and guys/gals have been in just as long (or longer) and never been away from their family. I don't wish this on anyone but it does kind of erk me.