Friday, June 26, 2009


so, i don't know if this has ever happened to you, but you walk into a military function, meeting, coffee, gathering of spouses, and within 32.4 seconds they have sized you up and made their minds up about you because of your appearance and your husband's rank. not that this has happened recently since we're at captain's career course, but it's something that sticks with me anytime in meet someone new, military or not. i'm not one to size you up before you open your mouth and send a little time with me, but i do wonder while we're getting to know each other, have you already sized me up?

i had a serious problem with this at our last duty station. yes, we don't look our age (i'm 27 and aaron will be 27 in october). and no, we don't dress beyond our comforts. so, most of the times it's jeans, a t-shirt from the gap or american eagle and flip flops for me. yes, i don't spend time on my hair or make-up, but i do keep goody's in business with the gillizion rubber bands i buy and bare minerals was made for me. and to be honest, that's it. that's as good as it gets. i do own the nicer clothes from my teaching days (upper elementary), but come on, i'm a mom. i roll on the ground, i chase cayman up and down the slides, i run errands and keep a clean house. so, yes, my appearance may not come across as someone who holds a bachelors and a masters and has sat in the company of senators and rocket scientists and athletes, but come on! are you serious! i've got a few skills that would knock your socks off (but not in that way) and i can hold my own, thank you very much. and another thing, i don't wear a rank. the last time i checked, my husband wore the uniform (until he comes home and then he's right into comfy clothes and dad/husband mode).

i feel like maybe sometimes i do need to wear some labels and my resume` just to make sure that when you're sizing me up, you get all of me in your measurements. but then again, those who waste their time sizing everyone up miss the true person and usually miss the opportunity to meet a great person that God has put in their life.

ps, there is much more to sizing you up that meets the eye. i love you!


The Fishers said...

You are beautiful! Beautiful outside AND in and to me, inner beauty is what tells the most about a person

Also, remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if certain people judge you, you probably wouldn't like their personalities anyway :)

God Bless!

Tyler Lynne said...

Screw people and their measuring skills! If they are going to behave that way, they are not necessary in one's life.

I hope you have a fabulous weekend!

Kelli said...

You go girl!! Our man wears the uniform..not us.

I have yet to experience this as I'm just dating and havent been near a post. But I know just chatting to people as soon as I say PFC they belittle us. It's a shame, no matter what rank they [the men] signed up to do the same thing! To fight and protect our country!

Taylor said...

It's sad, isn't it? As a society we place too much emphasis on appearance. I like your idea about wearing a resume on yourself! I might do that too! If it makes you feel any better, we all get sized up; it's usually by those who are insecure with themselves! You rock, Jackie!